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Sensible Coaching for Elderly Parents' Children | Endless Legacy
Sensible Coaching for Elderly Parents' Children | Endless Legacy
rhonda
@endlesslegacy.com
Is This You?
- Are you suddenly burdened with care issues or other decisions for your elderly or aging parents?
- Did you just receive that totally
unexpected, out-of-the-blue phone call from some authority (doctor,
police officer, emergency operator) advising you of the immediate help
your aging elderly parent needs?
rhonda
ACM Care 5 Tips to Dementia Proof Your Home
Electronics with Automatic Shut-off. These are great for home
safety in general, but of extra importance when someone in the home has
memory loss. Electronics and appliance manufacturers are incorporating
an automatic shut-off feature in to an increasing number of products
ranging from humidifiers to Christmas tree lights. The ones you might
find most useful for a loved one with dementia include a curling iron,
iron, and coffee pot. It they still cook, a product called CookStop can
actually turn off a pot or pan that they have left on the stove too
long.
safety in general, but of extra importance when someone in the home has
memory loss. Electronics and appliance manufacturers are incorporating
an automatic shut-off feature in to an increasing number of products
ranging from humidifiers to Christmas tree lights. The ones you might
find most useful for a loved one with dementia include a curling iron,
iron, and coffee pot. It they still cook, a product called CookStop can
actually turn off a pot or pan that they have left on the stove too
long.
How Joint Bank Accounts and Property Affect Medicaid Eligibility - AgingCare.com
How Joint Bank Accounts and Property Affect Medicaid Eligibility - AgingCare.com
When considering trying to qualify for Medicaid, many questions about jointly-held assets arise:
Should I re-title my house from joint names with my spouse into my name alone?
If I add my son's name to my bank account, will that affect my ability to qualify for Medicaid?
What do POD, TOD and JTWROS mean?
For
the purposes of Medicaid, there are two different instances when the
exact way an asset is titled can affect a family's finances: when a
family member applies for Medicaid, and following the death of a family
member who was covered by Medicaid.
When considering trying to qualify for Medicaid, many questions about jointly-held assets arise:
Should I re-title my house from joint names with my spouse into my name alone?
If I add my son's name to my bank account, will that affect my ability to qualify for Medicaid?
What do POD, TOD and JTWROS mean?
For
the purposes of Medicaid, there are two different instances when the
exact way an asset is titled can affect a family's finances: when a
family member applies for Medicaid, and following the death of a family
member who was covered by Medicaid.
4 Essential Caregiving Lessons from Home Care Nurses - AgingCare.com
4 Essential Caregiving Lessons from Home Care Nurses - AgingCare.com
Working in home care enables you to see certain elements of an
elder's life that may fly under the radars of their doctor, their
friends and, many times, even their closest family members.
The
people caring for your loved one—home health aides, registered nurses,
social workers, etc.—witness some of that individual's most vulnerable
moments as they handle real-time critical issues related to a senior's
health and well-being
Working in home care enables you to see certain elements of an
elder's life that may fly under the radars of their doctor, their
friends and, many times, even their closest family members.
The
people caring for your loved one—home health aides, registered nurses,
social workers, etc.—witness some of that individual's most vulnerable
moments as they handle real-time critical issues related to a senior's
health and well-being
Codependency: Caretaking vs. Caregiving
In a Caregiver Support Forum discussion group the question was asked:
How can I begin to think positive about being a
caretaker?
She has an excellent site with great information,which I quote (material quoted was authored by Elizabeth Kupferman ):
http://www.expressivecounseling.com/codependency-caretaking/
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Codependency: Caretaking vs.
Caregiving
I view caretaking and caregiving on a continuum. We usually aren’t doing both at the same time. The goal is to do as much caregiving as we can and to decrease our caretaking as much as we can. Caretaking is a dysfunctional, learned behavior that can be changed. We want to change so we can experience more peace, more contentment and more fulfilling relationships. The people in your life may resist your healthier actions, but modeling caregiving is a huge gift you are giving to your loved ones
Here are some key differences between caretaking and caregiving:
- Caretaking feels stressful, exhausting and frustrating. Caregiving feels right and feels like love. It re-energizes and inspires you.
- Caretaking crosses boundaries. Caregiving honors them.
- Caretaking takes from the recepient or gives with strings attached; caregiving gives freely.
- Caretakers don’t practice self-care because they mistakenly believe it is a selfish act.
- Caregivers practice self-care unabashedly because they know that keeping themselves happy enables them to be of service to others.
- Caretakers worry; caregivers take action and solve problems.
- Caretakers think they know what’s best for others; caregivers only know what’s best for themselves.
- Caretakers don’t trust others’ abilities to care for themselves, caregivers trust others enough to allow them to activate their own inner guidance and problem solving capabilities.
- Caretaking creates anxiety and/or depression in the caretaker. Caregiving decreases anxiety and/or depression in the caregiver.
- Caretakers tend to attract needy people. Caregivers tend to attract healthy people. (Hint: We tend to attract people who are slightly above or below our own level of mental health).
- Caretakers tend to be judgmental; caregivers don’t see the logic in judging others and practice a “live and let live attitude.”
- Caretakers start fixing when a problem arises for someone else; caregivers empathize fully, letting the other person know they are not alone and lovingly asks, “What are you going to do about that.”
- Caretakers start fixing when a problem arises; caregivers respectfully wait to be asked to help.
- Caretakers tend to be dramatic in their caretaking and focus on the problem; caregivers can create dramatic results by focusing on the solutions.
- Caretakers us the word “You” a lot and Caregivers say “I”
more.
I recommend the work of Melody Beattie who is a groundbreaker in codependency education. If you find yourself in relationships with people who have addictions or if you struggle with your own addictions, I recommend Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (also Al-Anon, which is a 12 step group). If you aren’t in relationship with someone who has an addiction or if you do not suffer from an addiction, I recommend her new book “The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today’s Generation.”
Reference: Beattie, Melody (1991). Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself.
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Please note:
Elizabeth Kupferman is a counselor in Southlake, Texas
the great information,which I was authored by Elizabeth Kupferman :
http://www.expressivecounseling.com/codependency-caretaking/
▶ Meet Teepa Snow - YouTube: must watch for caregivers
▶ Meet Teepa Snow - YouTube
Maggie Pheasant said: I completed three of Teepa's trainings - she is simply not to be missed if she comes to your area - make every effort to clear your calendar and attend, whether you are directly a care giver or know someone who is, you will learn a lot.
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